How involved should your future mother-in-law be in your wedding? Should she help with planning? Should she host the rehearsal dinner? Here’s everything you need to know about the mother of the groom etiquette.

Mother Of The Groom Etiquette

Wedding planning

If she has good taste, invite her to the meeting with the florist or caterer. She can help with table settings or centerpieces. You can also invite her to a dress shopping, although this is usually a mother-daughter event. If you have a rocky relationship with your future mother-in-law (or if she tries to take over the wedding planning) – it’s very important to set boundaries. Give her 2 or 3 tasks she can take care of and tell her you’ll let her know if there’s anything else she can help with. React immediately if she’s booking the caterers or ordering invites without consulting with you first.

Guest list

Consult the mother of the groom about how many people from their side should be on the guest list. She can help you with names and addresses for the invitations. She can also help with seating arrangements.

Ceremony planning

Consult the mother of the groom to see if there are any readings, customs or rituals that should be included in the ceremony. She can also give you insights about the groom’s family traditions.

Rehearsal dinner

Your future mother-in-law may offer to host the rehearsal dinner. She’s paying, but it’s your party – don’t be shy to tell what kind of event you want the rehearsal dinner to be.

Rounding up guests

One of the major duties the mother of the groom has on the wedding day is to make sure that wedding guest she knows are all set with transportation to the venue, especially if there are several venues for the day. She should also take care that guests take their seats at the ceremony on time.


After the mother-son wedding dance, remind her that the main thing she should do is spend the rest of the evening having fun. Ask your bridal party for help if any problems pop-up.

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